Why we expect?
You may copy the title and may find some brain storming reasons, excuses and answers by people from Quora. But again to fume away my feelings related to it, I would be writing this blog.
See, while writing this piece there are so much expectations going in and near me:
1. I expect people to read this blog.
2. Snapdeal will be firing six hundred employees, unexpected!!
Still happy that I am not the one.
3. The latest song hamasafar from BKD starts with alia bhatt declaring "Aur koi ummed mat rakhna badri" which gets calm reply by Badri "Ummed pe to aashiqui kayam h".
There may be going more unexpected things worldwide but let's tore it apart and read below for the answer.
Some Quorians are right that expectations are human psychology that is in-borne and innate that we could not resist. Its replenished in us before we are actually born. My parents expected me for years. Then finally God dis/blessed them when I was born. That's apart, before leaving home for this engineering course I myself used to feel so. Expecting from my parents, every hour, every minute actually (doesn't necessarily means I have become independent or a sage now). I use to expect my mother to wake me up. I expect breakfast and lunch prepared etc and there are endless lists.
One of the answers read that we are not Dalai Lama, but I will say that he even expects. He expects a better environment which is calm and peaceful, that's what he preaches, what if not for him at least for the world if he is selfless. So not one in this world is devoid of expectations.
But unaware of this fact, I stopped expecting something from someone. I even told my mom not to expect if I get a job or will serve you in the old age and she laughed. She may not be serious but yet I was at the age of eighteen. I was a bit conscious about my surroundings and people around me. You know what, that can be my biggest life mistake. I grew up disliking every other person who is not punctual, true to his/her commitment and more. That's really inculcated a worst personality trait in me that is highly required at workplace i.e. Team Work. Frankly I am a worst team player because I love to play my game on my own. This gives me a sense of independence, self guilt and self suffering. This may seem infuriating to some, but that's what made me alone walker, isolated and unfriendly.
But this goes bitter when people start to expect from me. I changed my status few a times on whatsapp to stop expecting me. At home my parents, my siblings, and my relatives expect while in college which I consider my second home faculties and colleagues expecting from me. I don't know what makes all this to derive them. Does raising a question or doubt makes you intelligent? I say no. I raise and ask because I am inquisitive and curious. And while asking I present myself like a lamb, come and bite me. If Stay Hungry, Stay Foolish is the motto of Steve Jobs then I derive another line "Stay Blunt, Stay Foolish". And that's my version without my copyright. What makes me angrier when teacher come to me and say I was not expecting this from you. But why? Had I made a mistake by asking something from you. I am the dullest of all, now what.. Is this the end? Every semester I got at least a faculty raising the same question. And I like a lamb says mem....me...mem and finished.
So that hurts me. Not your question, but your expectations. Expecting me top the class, there is one, don't disguise me with him/her. Expecting me to get a job, my aptitude battery is low. Expecting me to finish all before time, come on I too sometimes procrastinate, sometimes. So please stop this, please.
See, while writing this piece there are so much expectations going in and near me:
1. I expect people to read this blog.
2. Snapdeal will be firing six hundred employees, unexpected!!
Still happy that I am not the one.
3. The latest song hamasafar from BKD starts with alia bhatt declaring "Aur koi ummed mat rakhna badri" which gets calm reply by Badri "Ummed pe to aashiqui kayam h".
There may be going more unexpected things worldwide but let's tore it apart and read below for the answer.
Some Quorians are right that expectations are human psychology that is in-borne and innate that we could not resist. Its replenished in us before we are actually born. My parents expected me for years. Then finally God dis/blessed them when I was born. That's apart, before leaving home for this engineering course I myself used to feel so. Expecting from my parents, every hour, every minute actually (doesn't necessarily means I have become independent or a sage now). I use to expect my mother to wake me up. I expect breakfast and lunch prepared etc and there are endless lists.
One of the answers read that we are not Dalai Lama, but I will say that he even expects. He expects a better environment which is calm and peaceful, that's what he preaches, what if not for him at least for the world if he is selfless. So not one in this world is devoid of expectations.
But unaware of this fact, I stopped expecting something from someone. I even told my mom not to expect if I get a job or will serve you in the old age and she laughed. She may not be serious but yet I was at the age of eighteen. I was a bit conscious about my surroundings and people around me. You know what, that can be my biggest life mistake. I grew up disliking every other person who is not punctual, true to his/her commitment and more. That's really inculcated a worst personality trait in me that is highly required at workplace i.e. Team Work. Frankly I am a worst team player because I love to play my game on my own. This gives me a sense of independence, self guilt and self suffering. This may seem infuriating to some, but that's what made me alone walker, isolated and unfriendly.
But this goes bitter when people start to expect from me. I changed my status few a times on whatsapp to stop expecting me. At home my parents, my siblings, and my relatives expect while in college which I consider my second home faculties and colleagues expecting from me. I don't know what makes all this to derive them. Does raising a question or doubt makes you intelligent? I say no. I raise and ask because I am inquisitive and curious. And while asking I present myself like a lamb, come and bite me. If Stay Hungry, Stay Foolish is the motto of Steve Jobs then I derive another line "Stay Blunt, Stay Foolish". And that's my version without my copyright. What makes me angrier when teacher come to me and say I was not expecting this from you. But why? Had I made a mistake by asking something from you. I am the dullest of all, now what.. Is this the end? Every semester I got at least a faculty raising the same question. And I like a lamb says mem....me...mem and finished.
So that hurts me. Not your question, but your expectations. Expecting me top the class, there is one, don't disguise me with him/her. Expecting me to get a job, my aptitude battery is low. Expecting me to finish all before time, come on I too sometimes procrastinate, sometimes. So please stop this, please.
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